“God has given husband and wife to help one another and that is the best gift of God”, said Rev. Dr. J. M. Ngul Khan Pau while addressing a one day Couple Seminar at Ao Baptist Church, Kohima on Saturday.
“A helper is not of a lower category like our society often understands with the helper (servants or maid servants) at home”, he said and reminded that God himself is our helper (John 14:16), while exhorting on the principle of provisions (Gen.2:18 “Helper”) in his address on the topic of Biblical Foundation of Christian Home.
Adam composed the first love song which is spontaneous – “Bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh”, he said while exhorting on the importance of the principle of compatibility (Gen. 2:23). If the husband’s strength helps the wife and the wife’s strength helps the husband, only then the real married life begins, he added.
He also stressed that the pledge of a permanence of marriage should be taken seriously. “For a wife, she is competing with other young and beautiful women for her husband and the husband competing with other men who are more handsome for his wife”. Husband therefore, “need to leave other beautiful women to cleave on his wife and so also wife need to leave handsome man to cleave on to her husband”, he said while talking on the principle of permanence.
Rev. Dr. J. M. Ngul Khan Pau also stressed the need to maintain the principle of exclusiveness for husband and wife and also the principle of intimacy for a successful marriage.
“Sex is not a taboo, the Bible made it clear, but it is very difficult to talk about sex in the Church in our present day society. Many Christian marriages failed because of the failure in the bed”, he said.
Earlier, his wife Lucy Engjadim said that the seminar was organized for husband and wife so that they can have a successful marriage life. Pointing out that many a times, couples try to find faults instead of appreciating and understanding each other.
Rev. Dr. Pau and his wife Lucy Engjadim addressed the one day seminar as resource persons on different topics including, ‘Biblical Foundation of Christian Home’, ‘Principles of Christian Marriage’ and ‘Relationship between husband and wife’. More than 50 couples from different Churches in Kohima registered themselves and took part in the daylong seminar which was jointly organized by NBCCWD, ABCCWD and KTBWU.